How do you keep safe in such questionable times? Let's cover some topic areas
Go make a coffee and get ready to read...
How to meet people
It's a mad world these days in dating and single life.
While some people are genuinely looking for love or companionship, see some treat online dating as a big named department store catalogue. They view, enjoy, then go to the store, pick out the thing they like, and take it home and, try it out and enjoy it. Some time later, they look at the catalogue again, decide to try something else out, package back up their original purchase, go back to the store with the item and receipt, head up to the service desk, return the original, get an exchange note, go pick something else out, take it home, and repeat the whole process until either the store stops allowing it, or they tire of the process itself.
People aren't things, and shouldn't be compared to objects.
Ways to meet people
Try to expand your social circle, so you have lots single and not just partnered friends. If you are attracted to the opposite gender, have lots of single friends of your own gender to network with. If you meet someone and think they are a decent person but just not for you, offer to introduce them to your single friends, have your single friends offer the same to their dates that were also decent but not their match, and in time may be your date might have a friend that matches you. Have some well meaning people pressuring you to meet someone? Tell them that if they find anyone decent to introduce you, you might get a blind date, a friend, or a partner out of it.
2. Activities (Actual FUN, see more about FUN below)
Are you actually going out and doing things that you enjoy, and where others might enjoy the same things and therefore have something in common with you. Look around at the events and activities you do, is your desired type of person and their gender at those events and activities in adequate representation? If not, what other activities have you not tried that you would like to try that would have those people there, and why aren't you going there?
I remember one lady telling me that her love life would only happen if a guy climbed up the side of her building and into her window. I replied that her only options were a fireman, or a burglar, and that the burglar wasn't an ideal partner unless she found Stockholm Syndrome attractive, and that the fireman would only be there if the apartment was burning down. Look with objectivity at whether or not you are making yourself available, or closed off from others.
3. Online dating, yes there can be horror stories, but some have good outcomes too.
How to online date - Some safety steps :
2. Chat on the app for as long as you need to feel comfortable, don't allow yourself to be pressured into moving off the app too soon. People might say they don't want a pen pal, but if you don't know enough about them yet, they aren't any kind of pal if they are forcing you into their way - or not at all - like that. Never give money to them, no matter what. Check if they can respect your boundaries, if you change dates, times, or if you respectfully disagree on some points. How do they respond? Not moving off the app til you are ready is a boundary too.
Are they interested in normal conversation or do they try to get sexual or seem to be love bombing you ( I write more about Love Bombing below). Are their initial approaches grand gestures and compliments on your looks etc? If so, be prepared to become Schrodingers person, both a god/goddess and simultaneously a fat/ugly/stupid person until you react positively or negatively to some person on the internet's pathetic pick up lines. Try not to let people's sudden and weird switch from complimenting to outright negging get you upon your polite rejection of them. That behaviour is really about them, it's not you. It's just another bullet dodged, my friend.
2. Phone call. (Call them while blocking your number to private first time, or have an alternative phone number, via anonymous internet number, or a burn phone)
Can you call them at night and on weekends? Are they regularly talking to you and wanting to get to know you as a person, or you as a sexual object? Are they open about themselves, their life, emotions, what is important to them in life? Do they have a short and long term plan both personally and professionally? Is their contact with you sporadic or reliable? Do they insist on calling you from a private number and never giving theirs?
If it's all one way and in their favour, end it early.
3. Video call - are they like their photos, do they let you see them on video call? Are they capable of being respectful on the video call? Scammers or people who don't look like their profile pictures typically will have all sorts of excuses to not to talk on a video call. Some people use heavy filters, or photos from 20 years ago and 20 kilos ago, and look nothing like they now look in real life, 20 years later, or they might be using someone else's photo. If they do agree to a video call, see how you get along face to face on video, before getting face to face in person. Some people will, oddly, see a video call as a green light to try to swing the conversation straight towards some sexy time ... before you have even met. You can make your own choices in life, but look at defining what you really want in making that connection, and assess if your and their actions are going in the direction of your goals or not.
4. Meet in a busy public place - Reducing risks and increasing comfort. Go to benign places for first dates art galleries, museums, theme parks, highly populated areas, ice or roller skating, heavily populated tourist attractions, restaurants, cafes. How do they treat wait staff? How do they handle things not going their way? How do they handle stress, or not being the centre of attention? Get to know as much about them as you go through the dating process with them and going out on dates with them over time. Take your time to get to know them as much as you can long before you let oxytocin take over your thinking and into the equation. The friendship underpinning any relationship is what will see you through difficult times far more than sex induced oxytocin can. What is oxytocin? Look here
Where to avoid being on initial dates Avoid something like a closed capsule ferris wheel ride where there is literally nowhere to run, equally hiking in remote areas on a first date can be super creepy or gropey. Avoid letting them drive you to a winery far away. Drive yourself or get to dates your own way until you know them enough to feel comfortable to let them do that. Ask for their address and full name. Never meet at their place or yours first time. I have talked online with guys who have offered ladies to cook at their place for a first date, and they have been quite innocent yet lacking in social awareness and been upset about women often not feeling comfortable about it and asked my views. A hint is that if you don't know them yet, you don't have to trust them yet. A lack of understanding of your safety concerns could also indicate they might not be capable of empathising with positions they haven't personally been affected by. If they display this character trait I generally ask them about their views on other cultures and watch them out themselves as covert supremacists pretty quickly to me and without their knowledge they have done that. Try it, it can be very revealing.
A restaurant or cafe you are familiar with is often best as wait staff will be more likely to know you and recognise if you look uncomfortable, and will look out for you. If you choose a busy area there may be a number of cafes and restaurants to choose from so that you can have the first part of the date at one place and move to another if extending you time together to a full meal. The great thing is, you also can just leave after coffee, with neither party feeling at a loss. When going on a date, tell people you know where you are going, with whom, have a back up plan and someone who can call, or can call you mid date if needed. Never leave a drink unattended.
Who's paying? Some people will purposely suddenly realise they left their wallet at home as a tactic to get you to pay for them, or to get a second date. Establish these sorts of things well in advance. Sometimes it's good to offer to meet for coffee that can become lunch, or drinks that can extend to become dinner - if both parties want too.
And, while honest feedback is usually best, go with your gut instinct, if it feels safer to politely leave and give a polite decline later, then do that. You can also set your phone to silent and then set a alarm for 5 minutes on most phones to then pretend to have an urgent call and get out of there, you can also alert staff at the bar or restaurant if you feel unsafe. Don't agree on the spot to a second date if you don't feel comfortable. "I'll get back to you" can be a good way to safely disengage if you don't feel confident to just say no.
5. After a date, take time to see how you feel about them. Don't rush in or out, just assess. If you want to spend more time with them and it's mutual, great. If not, be kind, even if being firmly against it. Don't be gaslit into giving someone - you don't feel right about - any more of your time. It is often better to just thank them for their time and for the date, but that you don't want to take it any further but wish them the best. There's no need to be mean by adding what you think is "wrong with them." They might be perfect for someone else. Some people don't take rejection well, try not to be one of them. Some people will engage in Negging AFTER being politely rejected. It is never okay, and is the tactic of an insecure personality at work.
The changing language of dating and singledom
Develop your career, your interests, life, and meet folks who have also have built a life.
There are now words that relate to dating that are handy to know. I cover some of the terms in this blog. One innocuous word is Fun. The word "Fun" doesn't mean what it used to, as a girl friend found out when making her dating profile. She had selected "Long Term Relationship," and had written " Love to have FUN" in her profile, and couldn't understand why guys were immediately getting sexual after asking if she liked to have fun and she had answered in the affirmative. When I explained it to her, she was horrified. I also said most probably they hadn't even read her profile before asking that ... Oh, to have their confidence, and audacity.
"Fun" had been such a sweet, innocent word, until somewhere in between 2000 and 2017 people decided it meant sex, and, they have been meaning that ever since. If someone ever asked me if I liked to have FUN I would reply with all my hobbies, an interest in the possibility of teaching English while travelling, my joy toward yoga, fitness, healthy eating, and making arts and crafts. I would then ask if that what they meant (while knowing that wasn't at all what they meant). I would also ask them what their hobbies and interests outside of work were, and every time, aside from drinking beer or spirits, if they liked "FuN" they didn't have any interests, at all. One even said that sex was the only thing outside of working and drinking that they thought was fun. I assumed they were probably terrible at it, and didn't want disappoint myself by testing my theory.
Sometimes guys would ask me what my biggest fantasy was, and I would say to "move to Bar Harbor, Maine, raise seven goats, and marry a lumberjack who will be the only one to understand my mysterious and tragic past." Many guys then and to this day probably have no idea I was copying and pasting the basic response used in content of a storyverse based on ladyfolks responding to creeps on the internet.
Being Happy Being Single
Being happy while being single is just as important as being happy if you are partnered.
Being single means you can plan and on the spur of the moment do things you enjoy without having to consult someone else first, or compromise for their comfort levels or any insecurities either of you might have. May be, while single you are having a full life, and are working towards your future in career, study, causes, your wellbeing, interests, family, and or social life. May be you are part of a community group , or your tribe of people who are also single and you look out for each other. But being partnered shouldn't mean losing yourself and your goals, joys, or dreams either. The best partnerships are where you both strive to be and live your best, while supporting each other.
Being single doesn't have to be lonely, even if you are still learning to like your own company. The longer you are single the more careful you will be - about who you let into your life and why - if you enjoy your own company, and are having a fulfilling life. You may be more vulnerable to allowing the wrong people in if you are not finding your niche and keeping your sense of self fulfillment in your single life alive. It also doesn't help if family and friends pressure you about your single status.
Women, particularly, are often hassled and judged about being single, by well meaning family, friends, and even SOME random guys. I have been left alone far more often when out if I have a male friend accompanying me. I will absolutely take myself out to dinner, latin dancing, or a movie, but if it's to a mainstream Night Club, I'll go with friends. Men have asked a male friend accompanying me if they could dance with me, assuming a guy - I am not in a relationship with - should answer for me. Thankfully the kinds of guy friends I allow into my social circle are respectful and have answered "ask her yourself." These guys have been equally quick to ask me if I am okay I looked uncomfortable with someone. Growing a good friendship base at the end of a long relationship might take time, but is well worth it.
The patriarchy benefits from marketing to women the romanticising of weddings, marriage, and having a family. So, people often form negative judgements about single women, without even really thinking about it, because the bias is on a societal level. We all know about the stereotype of the "Crazy Cat Lady" think about who benefits from reinforcing that stereotype. When you become more conscious you start to question things like this more, you also question why in hetro' relationships the guy must be tall, and women shorter, very skinny and diminutive, perhaps the guy is a bit older than her, just a couple of examples of the bigger theme at play.
Are you single and been called picky?
Some people will try to manipulate you by warning you that you will be single all of your life. The kinds of people who assume that you have never been partnered often do it because you aren't fawning at their lack of decency. Your period of being single might be longer than their longest relationship which will probably also be far shorter than their longest period of being single. That might be what they feel insecure about and why they are projecting their issues onto you. Try not to tell them you would rather remain single for the rest of your life than go out on a single date with them. Some arguments just aren't worth it. Especially when you See this link about the statistics for single women.
Ask any single person for a list of questions they dislike being asked, and high up on the list will be the classics :
Q "WhY aRe YoU SinGLe, is it cause you are CrAzy or SoMetHinG?"
Answer A. But you are single, and you are the one me asking that question?"
Answer B. Are you really making fun of people with mental illness and saying that I should accept just anyone, or someone who gaslights people so they feel shamed into be partnered just to be seen as having value to you?"
Q "You're too pretty, how are you single"?"
A "I have standards, and intelligence. And for me, looks alone aren't enough alone for me to be attracted to someone."
Q "You don't want to be single and be "left on the shelf" you?"
A "Don't threaten me with a good time."
Often, a thought of love, light, and moving on is best and easiest. Sometimes things are worth a clap back, or applying the type of burn they need beeswax gauze and antiseptic burn creme for. Other times it's just not worth the oxygen. And, yet some people are really excited by creating outrage or being humiliated by strangers, it's up to you to read which category they fit into, or to just unmatch.
And, to the partnered friends telling you to give someone a chance that you don't want to, the chances are that if they are pushing that line too hard, you haven't settled for the kind of spouse they often feel vexxed about. This only reaffirms the security you have in your choice to wait until and unless someone turns up who is adult enough to be worth your time and energy. The happier your friends are in their life, the more likely they will be happy for you whether you are single or partnered.
So, what do to when the partnered people in your life tell you to "Give that person another chance" or to drop your standards so that you won't be single?
My tip is to have a bucket handy, in case your friends need it, and tell them there is nothing wrong with you being single. It's really not that no one will "pick" you, it's that so far no one you met so far felt quite right for you, no one has come alone yet who you feel would add joy to your life and you to theirs. And that you don't mind waiting, because you are filling your life with purpose and joy already. The trick is to really be doing that purpose and joy thing first.
Are you vulnerable to the wrong kind of connection?
I assist all kinds of clients who are at all kinds of life stages, but here I want to address the singles who are stuck in a rut over a love interest that is going nowhere, fast. As well as the partnered people who suddenly find they are interested in someone else.
Sometimes clients tell me how they feel such an amazing, intense connection with someone they hardly know. They feel that person in their sleep, and feel that person thinking about them, they feel they might be their soul mate, but the relationship has either been on the skids, or never got off the ground in the first place. These clients will tell me about how the person they are hooked on is acting in ways that are actually quite manipulative, abusive, or display an avoidant or insecure attachment style, or their love interest is not monogamous, or a bit of a drifter for some examples.
So what makes people vulnerable to abusers, losers, and users ?
Often, but not always, a severe lack of fun or personal fulfillment, aka "all work and no play." Life could be under major stress about anything from family illnesses, bereavements, and so on. They could lack sufficient social connections to find enjoyment, camaraderie, grounding, and sufficient "sounding boards." They could also have low self esteem or self worth, or past personal history or family background experiences that makes them more vulnerable, and more of a target to manipulative people.
If you love your life, and the things, people, activities that spark your inner glow and joy enough, you will walk away from anything that doesn't look like the love and respect you deserve.
Love Bombing and Love Frauds
There are some cautionary tales about love bombing and love scammers, all over Digital TV from Tinder Swindler on Netflix, To Stan's various offerings : Love Fraud, Panorma : Catching Cat Fish, and Dating App Horrors. Also on ABC is Australian Story Stephanie Wood, as well as ABC USA news
What is Love Bombing?
Typically love bombing is when someone is coming on too quick, too heavy, and way too good to be true. Sure, some people truly are intense, others are really easy going, but a typical love bomber is going to cover you in affections before really spending any time with you to get to know you enough to know if they even really like you as a person before communicating their undying love for you. I have heard of people saying "I love you" to the other person on first dates, first weeks, in the first month or months, only to later leave in a hurry or without any communication at all, and often going straight to another relationship. Usually it's a narcissistic trait or characteristic.
Some words of warning : Anyone who falls in love super quickly with you without even getitng to know you is just as likely to leave the same way they arrived, quickly, and over nothing.
They might also leave because they suddenly can see they can't or won't be able to manipulate you. May be they see you have good people around you as support that they won't be able to easily isolate you from. One of the first tactics of an abuser is to isolate you. At times in people's lives they might move away from toxic families, but this will be of their own doing after a lot of work in trying to heal things first, and that is entirely different to someone swooping in like a one person cult and trying to convince you that those closest to you couldn't possibly understand you as much as they do. See this article for more on love bombing for more.
Some people will breadcrumb you, by giving you just enough to stay invested, but not actually really be with you. They want to keep you there as an option, or as an ego boost, but not actually commit to you.
Avoid these types and read up as much as you can. Modern dating is nothing like it once was in the "olden days" when you met someone at the pub who probably knew your friends, when introduction agencies were new, and they actually interviewed people, made really weird video interviews of them, and people had to write letters to each other, see the video for examples of the good olde dayz. (There's a viking dude is on this youtube clip).
Thankfully, after Covid Lock downs, more and more people have actually gone out to meet people after feeling locked in for so long, and wanting the social interaction.
The good thing about meeting someone while out in a group setting is that you get to observe their behaviour in groups and with less of a front on, rather than one on one where it can be harder to detect facades, and how they handle different types of situations.
Learn as much as you can about someone before totally investing, take your time, and enjoy yourself.
Good pages to follow on dating tips and to know you aren't going mad after all, and that it's not just you experiencing this weirdness :
La la la let me explain
Bad Dates of Melbourne
Let's not date
Women's Specific Pages
Men going out of their way to reject women who don't know they exist.
Live show, Digital Radio and TV, Public Event Date for May 2022
A1R Psychic Radio and Moonstruck TV
I'll be talking about The Lovers Card on the next episode of my show on A1R Psychic Radio and Moonstruck TV, Friday 28th April 10am AEST (Thur 28th 8pm USA Eastern)
Facebook live on Love Bombing
And I'll be doing a live chat on Facebook about Love Bombing on Friday May 6th at 8pm AEST (Melbourne Australia)
Morwell Psychic Expo - Sunday May 1st
Live Stage performance readings and talk, one to one readings at the stand,
See the tour page
Remember to look for relationship Green Flags and secure your space with loving you first.
And that if you love you enough you won't tolerate an unloving relationship.
I'm here if you need me
Lots of love, respect, and appreciation
"What the bloody hell, 2020?"
As 2020 adds down to a 4, And 4 is the Emperor Card, the foundations and framework of the structures in our lives are the focus, as we begin to see what has or has not been supporting us, and we have to decide what we now should or should not put energy into. The Emperor Card is linked on the Kabbala Tree of Life to path 15, "Heh," which in English Means "Window," Windows admit light, and allow us to see outside and down the path to see who is coming toward the door to decide whether or not to admit them. So it is a cruel ironic restriction of course to find that many people in Melbourne, where I live, are like me, still looking out their windows most of the day, from inside their homes.
The numbering and configuration of this year forces reflection, going within, and looking at what to move forward in life with.
So, how do we deal with this?
Contact numbers for reaching out for help :
As always I am available for healing and reading appointments, as well as the free weekly live broadcasts and podcasts for healing and well being. However for free specialist crisis and mental health care, see this link
Things you can do to help yourself :
- If you are working through at least you will be busier than if you are laid off, don't forget to be kind for all the feelings you might be going through,
- Be realistic about finances, and any cuts you might need to make, seek financial counselling where needed and talk to your bank or lenders early rather than putting it off.
- Patience toward yourself and others is an important to practise especially if you feel you hardly have any left.
- Meditation in varying forms an help, but shouldn't be an escape from dealing with action and practicalities.
- Setting up a daily routine helps regulate things more.
- Exercising daily helps as well, even if you use a bag of flour for bicep curls while watching Netflix.
- Regular video calls and video dates with friends, family and social connections helps.
- Have you been putting off study? Now could be a good time if you aren't doing anything else.
- If you are "researching" on the internet, please also use terms to look at the other side of the very thing you are searching via the internet so that you get a healthy diet of a variety of sources of information. Especially, look up to find who is funding public speakers on any given currently relevant topic to find out if these might be the cause of any biases that may be demonstrated by the speaker as to their motivation behind their "opinion" as spruiked. In other words, who is paying them to say what they are saying. (P.S, No one funds me except myself and my individual clients via their individual appointments. I am not sponsored by a political party, nor am I a member of any political party, and I am not funded by any multinational corporations).
- Homeschooling : Where to even start on that....
If you have the resources and can get a tutor once a week to assist, it may help you and your children refocus.
If you are partnered may be take in turns who works when and which one of you takes on board the homeschooling at what time of the day, seek out professional advice about child care arrangements where needed and possible. I used to do all of my work once the kids were having naps, or asleep at night to meet deadlines while working partially from home when that was barely heard of in Australia back in the late 90s, the 00s, and early 10s.
If you are a sole parent and working and homeschooling I have simply hats off to you and a 25% discount off your session if you mention this blog because frankly, you deserve a medal.
"The times, they are achangin"
New problems can't be fixed with old solutions. Some old problems were never fixed with the old solutions.
Compassion is a vital component of both having the characteristic of humanity, and creating a better world.
This doesn't have to be about just going back to normal, it can be about creating a better way of doing, thinking, and being.
It is not our present circumstances we all find ourselves in that is "character building" it's our choices, our resilience, our willingness to seek help, our work on self healing, and our capacity, if it's possible, to grow beyond trauma. The act of doing so should never be taken lightly, and it is not everyone's path to do help others, sometimes it's more than enough just to help yourself.
Rising from my own ashes
"In my life, I've been reduced to my core,
Risen back up out of my own ashes,
Learned to walk through the flames that no longer touch me,
And, I am still here, with no need to tell my whole story,
I have learnt to channel it all into living well and helping others.
And I have done that in spite of the statistics.
And so, wherever you are at in your self healing journey, I salute you.
While you may have been stronger than you think, there are times we may also need to be more self nurturing than we may have ever been."
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If you wish to contact me, I am also here.
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Until next time, lots of love
Back again !
I have just returned from beautiful Adelaide, where I met past clients and a range of new ones for one to one readings. I also demonstrated readings ans taught audiences in workshops and they were really positive, lovely people. I dropped by the Wild life expo and met some amazing animals, although I didn't quite have time to visit the market, or Hahndorf, there's always the possibility of next time.
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Feeling Fuzzy And Out Of Focus?
If you are feeling a bit out of sorts, not quite in your body, or feel like your head is in a few places, how your focus can determine your life balance and endurance. I share how to stay grounded whatever may come in this piece... read on
Not letting your fears get the better of you...
So, why am I pictured with a snake?
I really have always worked towards finding spots of resistance in my own life and overcoming it. I used to fear snakes dreadfully, but was always confused when some rather venomous species of snake would suddenly change direction and race to get away from me whenever I came across one on the farm. So, I have been taking every opportunity to pat a - non venomous- snake that I can in the last few years.
And, while on tour while in Adelaide recently, I had my photo taken with a snake, a rather friendly, and quiet snake, who luckily was not afraid of me. As my focus in my work is helping others to find peace and love, and to overcome their blocks in life, to find their focus and purpose in life, I can't really help them if I also do not face my own areas of development on an ongoing basis.
While people may be awesome, no one is perfect, and owning your own areas of growth will prevent you from being annoyed about the shortcomings of others also.
On the road again...
When I am on tour, appearing at events, it is a chance to meet you and answer your questions, or even give you a reading out of the audience when I present a readings demonstration, and gives you the opportunity to see my work close up ahead of making a booking for a private reading, or to ask about classes and workshops I run from time to time. My tour dates are on this link...
Not just any cards...
In my case, when I read, I am connected to all five senses on a higher level, and reach into a range of dimensions and realms to consult for my clients according to how they are going to be receive the message. As such I can work with over 60 different divination styles, energies, realms and dimensions, but I like to keep it real as well. Try to keep an open mind when yo are looking to develop your intuitive and psychic gifts. Most people who are tuning into their intuition about which styles they prefer yet allow for the fact that other people may get results and relate to other tools altogether, tend to be able to perceive far more and more accurately. All means of connecting and divining outcomes and energies are tools, even if that tool is connecting with spirit.
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That's all form me for just now until next time.
May you be blessed with positive moments of synchronicity and serendipity until my next update, when I will announce the first winner of my free 15 minute phone reading giveaway.
Lots of love to you and your family and love ones
- Thank you and wrap for the year
- Seasons Greetings, nurturing you over the holiday period
- Chinese year of the Fire Monkey 2016
- Articles online
- A year of Soul Star Radio - live readings on air
- my Christmas and New Year gift for you
It is enriching work to help people become more empowered, helping them to see their best way ahead, whether in one to one appointments, in classes, on the weekly radio show, Soul Star Radio on the A1R Psychic Radio network, and in public presentations at events, including live stage platform readings.
This year I have presented and done platform readings at over 30 public events around the country, and been welcomed by many lovely people I had the honour and pleasure to read for, and to connect them with the different spiritual dimensions and elements of nature that I work in. I look forward to again in 2016, getting back into things and my first client bookings start again on 2 January.
Meanwhile, my beautiful reception staff, Selvana, Alicia, Sara and Erin are all on holiday leave from 23 December to 3 January inclusive. You can also still phone the office, on 1300 760 651, however I will be clearing voice mails once daily. The reception team return 9 am on the morning of 4 January.
Bookings can still be made over the holiday period and it is recommended to book in advance for appointments for the new year. Current holiday availability is linked here. You can book quickest either by booking online, or book by text over this period.
Chinese year of the fire monkey 2016
Some online reading for you
Visit the front page of this site, highlight the ABOUT page link, and yo will see other the linked pages including Articles" with other links of articles on a range of subject.
The "FAQ" page off the main page has loads of info as well. I hope you find these pages helpful and informative.
A year of Soul Star Radio
Her name is Constance Solomon, she is the Vice President of A1R Psychic Radio and, her, and the amazing Dave Solomon - producer extraordinaire - have made me feel so welcome and been so very supportive.
An extra special thanks to Terri Virginia from Psychic TV Australia who has appeared on multiple episodes and a very special thanks to Amanda Hall, also a regular on Soul Star Radio, as seen on Psychic TV Australia and Psychic Today Breakfast Show UK, who has been an extra special support and sponsored Soul Star Radio to support the vision of the show. Both Terri Virginia and Amanda Hall have also participated in providing show give away prizes for listeners to win free private - off air- readings alongside myself.
It was a pleasure to have him on Soul Star Radio, have him read live for callers, and have him share his journey and information about his books.
Christmas And New Year bookings
So, as a special thank you, I am giving all clients consulting me or booking during the Christmas and New Year period a free small gift at the conclusion of their booking, throughout the January period. This gift will be as I feel guided individually for each client, whether it's a crystal, some incense, or a custom made, alchedmical herbal healing sachet made individually for your needs.
My best wishes for you over the festive period, may you have a safe a prosperous new year and I look forward to connecting with you in 2016.
My journey through magick
I knew I was quite different than the other kids, but I was shy about letting them know, and they didn't seem to do the same things as me. They thought I was weird, and I just felt like the odd one out, as if everyone had been invited to a party, or that if I was invited I was probably that shy kid in the corner. That would be hard for anyone to believe these days of course.
Coming out of the broom closet as I have called it for two decades now, was no small feat at the time. It was not all that widely accepted, and people would feel quite justified discriminating against you when you applied for day jobs. They would do it based on you being publicly out there as a witch, shaman, alchemist, or psychic.
It's all improved a lot these days, and while in some quarters, people of a certain line of thinking might still might chuckle a bit, at first... Their facial expressions quickly change when I demonstrate a sound knowledge of clause 116 of the Australian Commonwealth Constitution and section 18C of the Racial Discrimination Act 1975.
While dealing in love and light, compassion and "letting things go" it's also handy to know the law, and not just the lore of things.
And that tends to be a lot quicker than allowing people to stomp all over you in the name of you just being the "better person," There is a time for turning the other cheek, and there is a time to take a firm stand as a community service because too many others have been hurt or blocked from progress based on narrow thinking.
But what really is alchemy and magick?
What it isn't
In love spells for example, while you may be initially successful in your aim using such spells and incantations, the repercussions are immense. And it always ends up in regret in so many different ways.
Logically speaking, if you cast a spell to force someone to return to you who chose to leave, and it actually worked, how would you ever know that they actually love you of their own free will?
And how would you feel with that question continually burned away inside you?
You would end up in far more doubt about your relationship than ever before they left you. Love is not the same as control and possession.
Love means allowing that other person to have choice.
Using magick to make them return assumes you have the both the power over their choices and the entitlement to have that control over them.
And to in effect, see them as 'less than' you, and therefore you aren't truly loving them by not giving them equality.
To love someone is to respect them. Think about it for yourself.
Clearing herbs and energies
increasing positive chi flow, clearing blockages, and working on multiple layers, from the auric, chakras, guiding energies, cording to other people, connections, as well as spirits, sound, color, crystals, aroma, the elements and directions. Also in soul retrieval, and clearing homes and bringing harmony through energy clearing and also placement and organisation of the floor plan. I also work astrally, and can "transport" us to the sacred and special place I am guided towards for the healing of that individual, often when I take clients to a specific temple, the more sensitive people will be able to describe intimate details of that particular temple and different peoples accounts of it are very similar if not at times identical to each other.
Alchemically, I am also using tools to transform energies within, without, and that which is being transmitted, where relevant. I also make up individualised herbal sachets and ritual resin and incense blends custom made for the individual client and their situation.
Sometimes clients who are using the sachets talk about how the sachet smells like a specific smell from their childhood, and reminds them of a happy time, or one that has a lot to do with the issue that was raised in their session about things going on in their life now.
In other cases, menopausal women who haven't told me about their hot flushes, comment that sniffing the blend I made suddenly makes them feel cool and calm. This may simply be a feeling, but the energy of the sachets is about bringing balance back on an energy level, and so the herbs used will be intuitively selected by me in front of the client at the end of their session, and when I look at the traditional magickal and healing energy use of the herbs, the text on it correlates quite exactly with what is needed.
Of course I do not prescribe herbs for consuming in teas, that is not my role. These are magickal sachets and incenses, and more often than not, the nose knows what it needs. A lot can be achieved quite normally, through taking a deep breathe.
If a lovely and perfectly mixed aroma is smelt as we breathe, then the relaxation and magickal value can be ascertained for oneself. Many things in life are simply about enjoying the simple pleasures, relaxation is one of the most important of those simple pleasures. When we are more relaxed in our state of mind, we are clearer in our thinking and thus decisions we are more likely to be clear, and if we are relaxed we can deal with changing circumstances with more resilience and strength.
Most spiritual and magickal disciplines, are also about knowing and mastering yourself, magickally and fundamentally... And then helping others to do the same, for the view of the benefit of many, and our for our mother earth, holistically.
And of course, I still use herbs, sigils, candles, walk between worlds, and do the cooking and washing up.
Working with both the shamanic pathway and that of alchemy, and working from a point of inclusiveness and that of the community, I had been asked and had asked over the years about becoming an ordained minister. But the answer that came back strongly to me from spirit was that I cannot become an ordained minister of any one single religion, because to do so would be to exclude all others.
So for now, I remain as always, here in service to spirit in the way that I am guided. My work is always about helping people, while also respecting self and my path in this life.
May your weekend be enjoyable and remember to relax, and look at what new energies and beginings you may want to make.
I am at Girls Day Out Expo this weekend, presenting on stage daily at 11:30am and available for one to one readings at our stand, as well as ritual guidance, incenses, herbs, resins, smudge, crystals and lots of color.
Prebookings for this event and also for private bookings are available
Text 0439 488 558
Phone 1300 760 651
Lots of love
Jacquelene Close Moore
10am-4:30pm 25-27 Sept 2015
Melbourne Convention And Exhibition Center
1 Convention Centre Place, South Wharf
Are You Living Your Potential?
Who is the fairest of them all?
I was terrified, but it was really simple....
It's not me alone doing this...
Jacquelene at Mind Body Spirit Festival
Booking Clerk, Eftpos and Credit Card on site,
Pre bookings are available and advised 0439 488 558
A Gift To Say Thank You
- Reading with Jacquelene
- Future Booking made for a future appointment date with Jacquelene,
- Or Purchase of a Gift Certificate for a future reading or healing booking at a later date with Jacquelene
2pm, Stage Presentation Mediumship
Here's wishing you the very best that life can bring you, and that you can bring to your life. xx
Hamish and Andy are very, very tall, nice young men...
Now we have a new radio show, was it Hamish and Andy's magick, or the Supermoon?
Yes I am still doing readings, Where am I next? Check the links to events...
Being happy with you...
Revving up the radio with Hamish and Andy
I had lots of fun doing a radio appearance with two rather spunky, and nice young men, Hamish and Andy. Gosh aren't they tall?! I felt Andy could be a good psychic, as he said something very poignant that I was going to say, just as I was about to, all about the nature of superheros, bad boys, and how girls often want to save them, but shouldn't try because they don't want to be saved.
And then it happened...
I was approached by a USA based radio station to join their programming to represent Australian Psychic Radio on trheir channel. So I created a brand new show, "Soul Star Radio" and ran with it. The number and types of synchronicities this opportunity brought practically blew me away. With amazingly short deadlines, I had to hit the ground running, and in barely any time, registered the show name, domain name, built and published its own unique website, created and published the graphics, expo banners, a blog, and recruited co-hosts and started the show in less than seven days.
Want a reading or a chance to say hello?
I am next appearing publicly at
This weekend Beautiful You Australia, Melbourne,
Sat 13th September 10-6, Sun 14th September 10-5
Sacred Mist Psychic and Wellbing Expo Frankston Sunday 21 September
Sacred Mist Psychic and Wellbeing Expo Lardner Park Sun 28 September
Healthy Body and Soul Expo, St Kilda Town Hall Sat 4th, Sun 5th October
Melbourne Psychic Expos - Malvern Sun 19th October
Sacred Mist Expo Pakenham Sun 2nd November
Jacquelene at Mind Body Spirit Festival Melbourne Fri, Sat, Sun 14-16 November
Be happy being you
They don't have to be, and you don't have to make them happy for you, not that it works that way anyhow. A good saying to use if someone has said or done something so bad it leaves you stunned at their audacity is to say (or think silently)...
"I forgive you, because you don't understand the affects of what you just said (or did)."
Do what is your focus, and don't react. If people don't have respect for you and instead act in complete unconsciousness and audacity, don't let them distract you from your purpose.
Respond to the situation, not react to the personality.
Do things that are life giving, not energy draining.
If people don't support you and they play games, take your energy somewhere where it is respected instead. Life is too short to waste it on people's agendas trying to block your progress just because it makes them feel more comfortable or in control. You are in the drivers seat of your life, don't blame the passengers for trying to direct you, it's not their fault they don't know where you are going.
Live it well...
Lots of love and bright blessings!
Professionalism and Ethics of
self promotion on the internet
I don't believe in using the internet to anonymously defame other psychics publicly, it just seems to amount to nothing more than a bit of cyber bullying by supposed adults ....read on here
This week, a peer of mine rang concerned as they had experienced someone playing all kinds of nasty mind games that just weren't fair, aimed at making them lose all confidence in their work. At other times throughout my experiences in this field since 1995, countless other people have shard with me the rough, unfair treatment they have sometimes been subjected to while working in this field. They may have vast amounts of other positive comments and feedback, and a lot of people in this field, like myself, are focused on giving our absolute best, straight from the heart. Letting someone down is something most of my ilk want to avoid doing. But there are a select few others who, in knowing this general trait in people in this field, try using it to manipulate. This is why you shouldn't take mind games personally.
In my own experience I have always found people who have tried to bring me down for vested interests and purposes to actually be helpful. They aide in my ability to recognize I need to reinforce my boundaries, as much as appreciate different (but respectful) views. They have helped me, albeit unwittingly, in my professional growth and eventual clarity, drive, and strength, even if it was clear that was not their original conscious intention. I use these events as a reminder of what I don't want to be like as much as what I am aiming toward. When those rare people have had a negative intention, they haven't realized that, with alchemy, we can all turn people's negativity directed toward us into positive outcomes towards others and ourselves. Look at this article for instance... I find such examples also provide me a wonderful counterbalance to the mostly very positive feedback I receive from genuine clients. It reminds me I am human, and not infallible. It also is a reminder that to be truly loved, you must also be truly hated by at least some, because by your very existence you challenge them to rise to greater things. You must be standing for something great, and must be making some positive change for people. Relentless bullying really seems more a reflection of the person doing it and is a projection they are attempting to label you with. To quote an old friend "Don't let the turkeys get you down."
So I thought I would pose the question, when is being a bully ok, and what are your views on businesses who do it?
Short to medium read ... grab a coffee and snuggle up....
It's almost the end of another amazing week for me, thank you to all clients for your support and in the wonderful feeling of being able to continue to be of assistance to so many.
I decided to wear no make up for this pic, it seems funny how we place so much society value on how women look rather than what they think and achieve. Besides, I don't think make up is entirely compulsory until men start wearing it and strutting some really awkwardly high Jimmy Choo's.
Are you old enough?
Sometimes parents may ask questions in their own reading for their benefit of relating better about their children and that is ok, but I have to stick to the ethics I work by and ascribe to. Once you are over 18, you are more than welcome to book. (It kind of follows that I am going to know if you lie about your age, thank you for those who are honest about being underage and who I turn away.)
Mercury Mercury Mercury
Back to the Future.......
For those experiencing low energy just at the moment, take rest where needed but keep the focus on what is important, rather than just what you think you want. As what you want may change quite a bit over the next few days and weeks, as it no doubt for some has already begun to do so.
The shadow period of the Mercury Retrograde continues on til about 10 July, at which time you should find you can wrap up any loose ends far easier and undo any tangles. Between now and then, patience is the key...and may be coffee... Mercury goes retrograde three times a year for about three weeks at a time. I will have more on this topic on my website including dates coming up soon.
How you can avoid feeling you need a holiday to get over your holiday
Stressed is Desserts spelled backwards......
If you take an afternoon off, all to yourself!! No one will really notice the difference, except you! You can, after taking little power pampers, feel like you have had a week away, and there’s even the advantage of no pile of processing when you get back. And voila! It also costs less.
May be a day away, night away somewhere YOU feel like going…
Or maybe, even just an hour or so, of receiving a pampering away from all noise and calamity. That can be even better than planning, packing, unpacking, and repacking on a holiday. Especially holidays involve you being the only one doing all the work.
Thought you couldn't have a holiday, or stressed about taking one? Problem solved, and you still have something fun to look forward to when at work in that day job whilst dreaming your dreams for the future. There's some ideas, I am sure you can come up with some of your own..
On the purpose of success
Focus is only a thought away…
They aren’t the ones aiming to fly to the moon with a tank of helium and a carton of balloons attached to a couch. They are logical, rational, and honest with themselves, they adapt, they do what will help them be financially secure in order to be then in the best space to create and invent. They also don't blame personality clashes for a failure to relate. They work out how to work with people, who they can work with and they avoid working with people who don't want to work,. There's a healthy balance between innovation and initiative. If they have to keep a day job in the meantime, they don’t let that become their only focus, and become lost in the mundane. They don’t forget their dreams in the process. Instead, they use the day job to fund the project they are working on relentlessly and tirelessly at home, until that project takes off until they can’t afford the time off the project that has grown independent wings and taken flight.
I believe success has more of an internal measure than the outward. If you do what you believe in and in a way you can be happy, you will be able to sustain it far longer than doing what your heart just isn't into and what you don't have an aptitude and desire for. But if you don't love what you are doing and you can't change it right now, you can always find a way to make it fun if you choose to. You can focus on what good does come out of it, and bring more of that goodness your way...
Part of being content about where and who you are is in realizing that we all have challenges, and that its entirely possible you have no idea what it took for someone else to be where they are, what they are going through, and what else they have dealt with. We all have challenges in life, part of mastering yours is in not projecting onto others your perception of it somehow being easier for anyone else, and instead produce results and fun in your own life.
It’s Something to consider :-)
"Success is liking yourself,
Liking what you do
and liking how you do it."
And I honestly believe in that idea myself.
I hope you all have a brilliant weekend
Lots of Love
Jacquelene Close Moore
Conscious Living HealthLifestyle Expo
Free tickets and discounted readings
UPDATE:- Tuesday 22 April, if you want free E tickets to this event, click here to register with the expo organisers.
Conscious Living Expo
Expo Hall, Melbourne Showgrounds
Epsom Road, Ascot Vale
25 - 27 April
10am-6pm Friday, Saturday
Stand number 43
View the Booking Calender here, or contact to make a booking
Workshops with Jacquelene
Friday 25 April
12:15pm - 1:15pm
Chakra and Color Magick and Meditation
Friday 25 April
2:00pm - 3:15pm
Psychic Mediumship Panel
Saturday 26 April
Talks and Demonstration Stage
Successfully Starting your Spiritual Business
Pre booked Readings and Healings with Jacquelene at the Expo $55 for 20 mins (normal fees are $95 for 30 mins, or 175 / hour)
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Readings and Healings with Students at the Expo also available.
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I look foreward to keeping in touch
Jacquelene Close Moore