What's your Empathic Intelligence Quotient?
By Jacquelene Close Moore
The empathy of giving and receiving readings
For clients, the best way to choose a psychic that you are going to be most happy with is to go on how you feel about them, and to take note of whether how they communicate about their work feels comfortable for you, as well as by seeing their actual website and what they say and do on that, as well as what it doesn't say. But as in the above example, remember the psychic, medium, empath also has the right to see how they feel about you. That isn't a bad thing, after all, most times that will be a good feeling.
For psychics, the more you allow for other cultures, beliefs, and people's differing world views, and the many differing lifestyles people may have while maintaining your own ideas and preferences, the easier it will be for you to accurately read for others, and for clients, being open to the psychic's culture is also helpful to receive accurate readings from psychics, as you are less likely to be sitting there judging them and creating a block in communication because of that judgement.
Knowing yourself more - and being secure in that - also helps you see others as they are, instead of seeing them as you are, or how you prefer to see them. Humans are naturally a species of conflict and migration, just look at our world history regarding wars and invasions. It is also true that human compassion and love is the highest point and beauty of our species. As such creative beings, we create great love, peace, unification as easily as we destruct with great fear, division, and war. So, understanding from a psychic perspective, the conflicts that can be going on within the one individual in front of you in a reading can help a great deal in finding the right way to connect with them.
When psychics seek to read others accurately, they have to remember that any great conflict within the person having the reading can colour how they view the message delivered to them. The client may not necessarily have ever seen themselves in the way the psychic has been able to so perfectly articulate. While that can be inspiring, it also could be incredibly confronting. When we sit and receive a reading from someone else, it is a good idea to remember that while they may not speak about us or our circumstances in a way we would ourselves have ever before put it, it might well show us new and different yet highly accurate insight to our lives and they may be able to do so precisely because they aren’t us.
How a reader talks to a client about the client’s life may open the client to aspects about themselves in a way they have never thought of before. That can be deeply inspiring, but it can also be deeply challenging. It is really important to navigate carefully through the conflict a person may be having between “what is” and “what is preferred” about themselves and their circumstances and do it with considered communication. A lot of it is down to how you communicate the message. We also - more importantly - do this best by bringing equality, empathy, and compassion to the table in order to keep the reading on point, yet balanced so the client can integrate the value of the message into their lives. Compassion can help the client take in the positive and helpful aspects of the message.
While we extend compassion and have capacity for empathising with clients, that may not always be held mutually in readings.
At times clients might ask trick questions, deny and then admit how what you said was accurate, or they might look shocked, nod in unmistakable recognition and then later deny what was said because they can't face the truth of it at the time, but return months or years later because it was so accurate. They might say absolutely nothing until the very end of a reading and then drop several bombshells about their lives that indicates exactly how what you said made sense to them. They might even say nothing at all except “thank you,” leave, and then refer 100 of their friends and relatives over the next decade. They may even decide they don’t like you or don’t like your way of delivering the very message they were drawn by spirit to hear, and hate you for all eternity because you dared to deliver it with complete honesty. Send them on their way with compassion and empathy anyway.
Working as a psychic is not about congratulation, it is about helping people to help themselves via change where necessary, and insight. Change is often necessary when people aren’t happy with their current circumstances and what they are doing hasn’t worked, especially if this has been repetitively over a long time. Often is the hardest thing for them to do can be to confront the reality and put change into disciplined, positive action. Insight could be about their love, work, health, wealth, passed over loved ones, their pet, the next door neighbour, the business they are thinking of buying and should, or the business they already bought that they should have avoided and put that money off their housing loan instead. Readings can be about almost anything that they may want you to cover. Insight can also be challenging for people because it may show them a different way of seeing themselves, and that is where it is important to be able to read them, not just for them, but also for yourself. Is what you are about to say be a breakthrough for them, put in a way they can utilise it positively, or is it something they will try skewering you with later? There is a certain require diplomacy, just as much as there is at times the need to politely refuse a reading request.
I will never forget the time a woman screamed at me at the conclusion of the free reading I gave her due to her financial hardship. She was unhappy that I had not told her the winning lotto numbers for that week, and had not told her she would meet a millionaire that would sweep her off her feet, love her, and take care of her for the rest of her life. Clearly the parts of the reading where I gave both psychic and practical tips that she had said blew her mind with accuracy had been forgotten like yesterday’s newspaper because I didn’t deliver the message she wanted to hear which would have required no effort from her in her own life for her to achieve it. Life generally doesn't work that way.
In another instance, a client flew down from Sydney to have a reading with me and before I did the reading I made a stop at a shop and bought a small wind up monkey that flashed red eyes and made cute sounds. I knew I had to buy it and when the client got to the appointment and asked to speak with their passed over loved one, I placed the wind up monkey on the table and said, “Well, he has a weird sense of humour, and as macabre as this may seem, here we go.” I wound up the small monkey and it made funny noises as it walked across the table with flashing red eyes. The client cried and laughed and laughed and cried, and laughed again. The passed over loved one’s nick name was “Monkey.” We proceeded with the rest of the reading, they were happy, and yes, of course I gave the wind up monkey to the client to take with them.
In another occasion a client wanted to connect to their passed over loved ones and with each passed over loved one I felt all of their illnesses as experienced in the last part of their lives as if it was happening in my own body, and with one passed over loved one I slumped over in my chair and a hacking cough developed as I watched the brown of tobacco all around me, next came the intense pain the the abdomen. The passed over loved one was conveying messages but of course was in NO PAIN at all on the other side, I was just the conduit of proof right through my physical body. As they left my presence and another relative hopped in, I felt my heart thumping in my chest, very briefly, and then felt the pain they had in their chest in the last moments of their life, sure enough, they had heart problems, I conveyed their messages and they move out, then the last passed over loved one popped in, and I was rolling with laughter, my body upright and energised...so apparently had this passed over loved one. The best was left for last, complete with witty, and dry humour.
But I do not do mediumship every single time in every single reading. Especially not in that way. It's not always appropriate.
For psychics, the more you allow for other cultures, beliefs, and people's differing world views, and the many differing lifestyles people may have while maintaining your own ideas and preferences, the easier it will be for you to accurately read for others, and for clients, being open to the psychic's culture is also helpful to receive accurate readings from psychics, as you are less likely to be sitting there judging them and creating a block in communication because of that judgement.
Knowing yourself more - and being secure in that - also helps you see others as they are, instead of seeing them as you are, or how you prefer to see them. Humans are naturally a species of conflict and migration, just look at our world history regarding wars and invasions. It is also true that human compassion and love is the highest point and beauty of our species. As such creative beings, we create great love, peace, unification as easily as we destruct with great fear, division, and war. So, understanding from a psychic perspective, the conflicts that can be going on within the one individual in front of you in a reading can help a great deal in finding the right way to connect with them.
When psychics seek to read others accurately, they have to remember that any great conflict within the person having the reading can colour how they view the message delivered to them. The client may not necessarily have ever seen themselves in the way the psychic has been able to so perfectly articulate. While that can be inspiring, it also could be incredibly confronting. When we sit and receive a reading from someone else, it is a good idea to remember that while they may not speak about us or our circumstances in a way we would ourselves have ever before put it, it might well show us new and different yet highly accurate insight to our lives and they may be able to do so precisely because they aren’t us.
How a reader talks to a client about the client’s life may open the client to aspects about themselves in a way they have never thought of before. That can be deeply inspiring, but it can also be deeply challenging. It is really important to navigate carefully through the conflict a person may be having between “what is” and “what is preferred” about themselves and their circumstances and do it with considered communication. A lot of it is down to how you communicate the message. We also - more importantly - do this best by bringing equality, empathy, and compassion to the table in order to keep the reading on point, yet balanced so the client can integrate the value of the message into their lives. Compassion can help the client take in the positive and helpful aspects of the message.
While we extend compassion and have capacity for empathising with clients, that may not always be held mutually in readings.
At times clients might ask trick questions, deny and then admit how what you said was accurate, or they might look shocked, nod in unmistakable recognition and then later deny what was said because they can't face the truth of it at the time, but return months or years later because it was so accurate. They might say absolutely nothing until the very end of a reading and then drop several bombshells about their lives that indicates exactly how what you said made sense to them. They might even say nothing at all except “thank you,” leave, and then refer 100 of their friends and relatives over the next decade. They may even decide they don’t like you or don’t like your way of delivering the very message they were drawn by spirit to hear, and hate you for all eternity because you dared to deliver it with complete honesty. Send them on their way with compassion and empathy anyway.
Working as a psychic is not about congratulation, it is about helping people to help themselves via change where necessary, and insight. Change is often necessary when people aren’t happy with their current circumstances and what they are doing hasn’t worked, especially if this has been repetitively over a long time. Often is the hardest thing for them to do can be to confront the reality and put change into disciplined, positive action. Insight could be about their love, work, health, wealth, passed over loved ones, their pet, the next door neighbour, the business they are thinking of buying and should, or the business they already bought that they should have avoided and put that money off their housing loan instead. Readings can be about almost anything that they may want you to cover. Insight can also be challenging for people because it may show them a different way of seeing themselves, and that is where it is important to be able to read them, not just for them, but also for yourself. Is what you are about to say be a breakthrough for them, put in a way they can utilise it positively, or is it something they will try skewering you with later? There is a certain require diplomacy, just as much as there is at times the need to politely refuse a reading request.
I will never forget the time a woman screamed at me at the conclusion of the free reading I gave her due to her financial hardship. She was unhappy that I had not told her the winning lotto numbers for that week, and had not told her she would meet a millionaire that would sweep her off her feet, love her, and take care of her for the rest of her life. Clearly the parts of the reading where I gave both psychic and practical tips that she had said blew her mind with accuracy had been forgotten like yesterday’s newspaper because I didn’t deliver the message she wanted to hear which would have required no effort from her in her own life for her to achieve it. Life generally doesn't work that way.
In another instance, a client flew down from Sydney to have a reading with me and before I did the reading I made a stop at a shop and bought a small wind up monkey that flashed red eyes and made cute sounds. I knew I had to buy it and when the client got to the appointment and asked to speak with their passed over loved one, I placed the wind up monkey on the table and said, “Well, he has a weird sense of humour, and as macabre as this may seem, here we go.” I wound up the small monkey and it made funny noises as it walked across the table with flashing red eyes. The client cried and laughed and laughed and cried, and laughed again. The passed over loved one’s nick name was “Monkey.” We proceeded with the rest of the reading, they were happy, and yes, of course I gave the wind up monkey to the client to take with them.
In another occasion a client wanted to connect to their passed over loved ones and with each passed over loved one I felt all of their illnesses as experienced in the last part of their lives as if it was happening in my own body, and with one passed over loved one I slumped over in my chair and a hacking cough developed as I watched the brown of tobacco all around me, next came the intense pain the the abdomen. The passed over loved one was conveying messages but of course was in NO PAIN at all on the other side, I was just the conduit of proof right through my physical body. As they left my presence and another relative hopped in, I felt my heart thumping in my chest, very briefly, and then felt the pain they had in their chest in the last moments of their life, sure enough, they had heart problems, I conveyed their messages and they move out, then the last passed over loved one popped in, and I was rolling with laughter, my body upright and energised...so apparently had this passed over loved one. The best was left for last, complete with witty, and dry humour.
But I do not do mediumship every single time in every single reading. Especially not in that way. It's not always appropriate.
What we learn as we become more experienced as psychic mediums and empathic readers is not only how to read the client for their benefit, but also how to read them for our own well-being. We learn to recognise in thirty seconds or less of an initial booking enquiry about how the potential client will deal with what we have to say, and therefore either how to make it easier for them to utilise that in a positive manner, or to avoid them altogether.
It can be both rewarding and challenging to work in this field, and it can be challenging for some people to find a psychic they feel comfortable with. To make your choice easier in finding a psychic you relate best to, you should really only have a reading with them if you feel drawn to and comfortable with them. You should also feel respect for what they do, and for the person themselves. This isn’t questioning whether you are respectful generally, it’s about whether you feel you can listen to them and feel confident in their skill and nature. Whether or not you can relate to and feel good about that is an entirely personal decision, and it’s also your right.
That personal decision is however a preference, and while you will feel right with some people but not others, just because you don’t feel right with one person doesn’t mean they are some kind of super-villain, or misanthropist. It’s just that right at this point, or possibly for the rest of your life, you just don’t like them. Try not to make the fact that you don't like someone an “us versus them” thing in life, as that is entirely unhelpful and may force more and increasingly uncomfortable interactions with more and more people who you don't harmonise with… After all, that which you focus on you attract, it's not just a convenience of focusing on nice things and nice things happen. Be towards yourself and others, the very outcomes you would like to attract and interact with.
Development of tolerance and equality also helps psychics to see the actions of others in the light not only of the intention of the other person in that moment of that interaction, but also to see on a deeper level. Empathy allows you to see what brought that person to this point in their life where this is how they have chosen to express themselves towards you. It helps you see what they deep down are actually looking for you to share with them, or even, perhaps hold back from the conversation in order that what is necessary is spoken, and that which must be held back in order that they learn from their own initiative, doesn’t even get a mention.
It can be both rewarding and challenging to work in this field, and it can be challenging for some people to find a psychic they feel comfortable with. To make your choice easier in finding a psychic you relate best to, you should really only have a reading with them if you feel drawn to and comfortable with them. You should also feel respect for what they do, and for the person themselves. This isn’t questioning whether you are respectful generally, it’s about whether you feel you can listen to them and feel confident in their skill and nature. Whether or not you can relate to and feel good about that is an entirely personal decision, and it’s also your right.
That personal decision is however a preference, and while you will feel right with some people but not others, just because you don’t feel right with one person doesn’t mean they are some kind of super-villain, or misanthropist. It’s just that right at this point, or possibly for the rest of your life, you just don’t like them. Try not to make the fact that you don't like someone an “us versus them” thing in life, as that is entirely unhelpful and may force more and increasingly uncomfortable interactions with more and more people who you don't harmonise with… After all, that which you focus on you attract, it's not just a convenience of focusing on nice things and nice things happen. Be towards yourself and others, the very outcomes you would like to attract and interact with.
Development of tolerance and equality also helps psychics to see the actions of others in the light not only of the intention of the other person in that moment of that interaction, but also to see on a deeper level. Empathy allows you to see what brought that person to this point in their life where this is how they have chosen to express themselves towards you. It helps you see what they deep down are actually looking for you to share with them, or even, perhaps hold back from the conversation in order that what is necessary is spoken, and that which must be held back in order that they learn from their own initiative, doesn’t even get a mention.
Empath, empathetic, empathic, empathise, and empathy, the differences,
as inspired by a PHD candidate...
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I will end this article off by describing the difference between an empath, empathy, empathic, empathising and empathetic using an example of dealing with a PHD candidate who wrote to me.
The differences between these terms are actually quite stark, and are important to know, especially if you actually are an empath, picking up on and feeling affected by the unspoken the feelings and intentions of people. This exchange proved to me that not all of our muses are nice and glamorous, some of them try to play mind games, which is not very empathetic of them. Once a PHD candidate contacted me asking about mentoring. They gave no other details, except asking about my fees. What they had not said, that I picked up was that they were a PHD candidate, they worked within counselling and coaching, and they had given me a different name. I felt their intention was to, in later emails back and forth, use me as their venting toy on which to take out all of their frustrations towards their PHD, and would - if given a chance - unlike 99.999% of my normal enquiries and clients who are simply asking questions. I felt this person was intent on proving their academic superiority by trying to wind me up in an intellectual and emotional mind game and then beat me with that same game, instead of empathising with the person they were writing to and seeking empathy based professional support from, and what they actually had a problem with was they were a cynic, not a skeptic, but would call themselves a skeptic in a further email exchange if I replied, and would also talk negatively about psychics if engaged in any way. |
So, I started writing back to them.
I wrote what an empath was, but then deleted it, having empathy for their deep frustrations and desire not to be open to me not to see me as an intelligent human being. And then I wrote the different types of mentoring I offer. But I did not give them any indication whatsoever of my fees, because I knew I was never going ahead with this on a professional level, and I also wrote at the end of the email "As I feel you work therapeutically within the realms of coaching and mentoring others already, let me know which specific areas of the mentoring I offer and have outlined that interests you, and we can discuss from there. " (Instead of simply providing the fees as I usually would when I feel someone was actually serious). |
They replied with their real name, and as I felt they would, said that they are skeptical, as I felt they would, said they had never found any proof or peace from any psychics they had seen, and they mentioned a very famous psychic medium as well, and still provided absolutely no feedback on that person's skill as demonstrated to an audience in front of them, as I also felt they would. They added - what I saw as an academic trick question (whether emanating from their conscious or unconscious), saying - that they considered themselves more of an empath, adding further, "I am an empathic and require support through mentoring to help me deal with this." They based this on an experience in which they stated they had trouble with the verbally expressed vulnerabilities of others in a recent group situation which left them feeling drained and emotional, and they wanted mentoring surrounding this issue of feeling overwhelmed from interactions like that. The interaction they spoke of was clearly verbal, and was dealt with in conversation. It was NOT non verbal nor picked up on on a paranormal level in any way that I could detect, and they had not outlined anything that gave anything remotely resembling what an empath would actually be capable of articulating to me. Their energy had felt incredibly closed and narrow minded from the first email, and it was still presenting that way in the second.
Keep in mind they were saying they are empathic. This means they : can understand and share the feelings of another.
They were not saying they were an empath, meaning they are : a person with the paranormal ability to perceive the mental or emotional state of another individual. Nor were they in any way demonstrating an understanding or experience of the kinds of paranormal experiences that would qualify as being an empath.
I empathised with their inner conflict, but within having empathy for myself in this situation as well, I didn't want to cop the hellfire response I knew I would if I pointed that or anything else about their inner conflict out to them. After all, I am not the PHD candidate.
I started to write about the difference between being an empath, being able to empathise, having empathy, and being empathetic, or empathic, in the email, addressed to someone working in the field that is all about empathising. Then I stopped.
Then, rather than send the email to them, in full, I sent them healing, because they would take offense if I tried educating them as an individual in that moment as they obviously weren't taking me seriously to begin with.
I cut out and pasted all those words and that work into a file to go towards my own upcoming book. I then cut the email back to a few lines, and replied to read my book when it comes out instead, as it would be one price point and they could prove themselves to themselves or otherwise in the privacy of their own home, and that I didn't feel it was appropriate to provide them with mentoring at this time, at all.
I wasn't doubting my skill, just was aware of their lack of awareness of how well I could see right into all their hurt, and their lack of openess to me because of my job title, and their lack willingness to treat me with adequate mutual respect that anyone should of someone they are genuinely seeking mentoring from and to empathise with their predicament. And so, it would be pointless to start something where the client wants to be right in thinking I can't help them, as they are putting so much negativity in to creating their own outcome.
Instead of going into a war of words that I am still sure would have happened had I spoke to their inner turmoil directly, or had I pointed out the definitions of what they were saying, nor the mind game they were trying to get me to play, I had abstained from exposing their own very deep fragility for them to see, and so we ended on a lovely note with them commenting they would look out for the book.
Empaths normally shut down around closed minded people, until they learn to manage their energy and not remain so vulnerable to every energy that comes their way, nor playing into its hands. Empaths also can tell what your intention is that you haven't yet spoken, as I demonstrated in my replies to our well educated friend. And, of course, empaths can choose to remained empowered by not to lowering their energy to engage on such a destructive level when goaded.
Being an empath - what it can be like, how to deal with it and what a client might expect
As an empath, I find that I used to have trouble doing things as simple as supermarket shopping. A person could brush past me and I would feel all the aches in their body as if it were my own, what their diet consists of, what the state of their internal organs is like, I could be instead picking up on and feeling their well masked depression, what their relationships are like, their family upbringing, cultural background and any cycles of abuse whether present in the moment or in the family line, and anything they might be thinking about in that present moment. Multiple that by walking past as many people as you do and then having to deal with the cashier and you start to get the picture.
It was really important to get a better handle on that, and that is why I now use a date of birth at the start of your reading, as a "switch on," and why I have a practise of as a meditation, completely forgetting everything about you at the end of the reading after you leave as a 'switch off" until the next time you come to see me. It is through discipline and normalising experiences, coupled with going and doing practical things straight after extraordinary experiences that helps ground an empath and helps them achieve and maintain balance, mentally and emotionally ongoing.
An empath can pick up from you face to face, via phone, email and text. But, they are under no obligation to tell you what they pick up. The boundaries of only working for a person inside an appointment stops empaths from becoming drained. Mediumship does not happen in every single predictive reading or for every single client. It is not always appropriate, as you may instead have a lot going on in the here and now which may require your more immediate, practical, reality based attention to take action in your life to resolve instead, and that was what in that reading was going to best help you at this time.
If you are an empath and find yourself feeling too many feelings that aren't your own, and getting confused by people lying to you about their intentions, remember, it most likely isn't your fault, but you do need to work on your boundaries, and, that there are things you can do to build trust with yourself about what you pick up from people while not getting bogged down in their adamant denials of what ( to an empath ) seems pretty clear cut and obvious.
There can be harmony and understanding between you and someone who is asking for insight from you while also being heavily resistant to hearing anything from you. If you empathise with them first, then you will know how to respond. Note that empathising is different to rationalising. Never ever try rationalising the actions of an irrational person, that is beyond self destructive, the results are surely self inflicted, and may teach you the hard way why there are some things we all should just leave well enough right where we found it.
A final word to all candidates
Should our friend find themselves in the book, it would not be by my intention, but at least they would not take offense in that more removed format where they can decide, alone on their own if they can are open to utilising the lessons that were there for them but withheld out of empathy for their self esteem. Should they find themselves here however, well if they didn't want their example used, why gift it to me but for me to help the empaths that may come across this article and have a much needed collective feeling of "YEP, got it!"
Keep in mind they were saying they are empathic. This means they : can understand and share the feelings of another.
They were not saying they were an empath, meaning they are : a person with the paranormal ability to perceive the mental or emotional state of another individual. Nor were they in any way demonstrating an understanding or experience of the kinds of paranormal experiences that would qualify as being an empath.
I empathised with their inner conflict, but within having empathy for myself in this situation as well, I didn't want to cop the hellfire response I knew I would if I pointed that or anything else about their inner conflict out to them. After all, I am not the PHD candidate.
I started to write about the difference between being an empath, being able to empathise, having empathy, and being empathetic, or empathic, in the email, addressed to someone working in the field that is all about empathising. Then I stopped.
Then, rather than send the email to them, in full, I sent them healing, because they would take offense if I tried educating them as an individual in that moment as they obviously weren't taking me seriously to begin with.
I cut out and pasted all those words and that work into a file to go towards my own upcoming book. I then cut the email back to a few lines, and replied to read my book when it comes out instead, as it would be one price point and they could prove themselves to themselves or otherwise in the privacy of their own home, and that I didn't feel it was appropriate to provide them with mentoring at this time, at all.
I wasn't doubting my skill, just was aware of their lack of awareness of how well I could see right into all their hurt, and their lack of openess to me because of my job title, and their lack willingness to treat me with adequate mutual respect that anyone should of someone they are genuinely seeking mentoring from and to empathise with their predicament. And so, it would be pointless to start something where the client wants to be right in thinking I can't help them, as they are putting so much negativity in to creating their own outcome.
Instead of going into a war of words that I am still sure would have happened had I spoke to their inner turmoil directly, or had I pointed out the definitions of what they were saying, nor the mind game they were trying to get me to play, I had abstained from exposing their own very deep fragility for them to see, and so we ended on a lovely note with them commenting they would look out for the book.
Empaths normally shut down around closed minded people, until they learn to manage their energy and not remain so vulnerable to every energy that comes their way, nor playing into its hands. Empaths also can tell what your intention is that you haven't yet spoken, as I demonstrated in my replies to our well educated friend. And, of course, empaths can choose to remained empowered by not to lowering their energy to engage on such a destructive level when goaded.
Being an empath - what it can be like, how to deal with it and what a client might expect
As an empath, I find that I used to have trouble doing things as simple as supermarket shopping. A person could brush past me and I would feel all the aches in their body as if it were my own, what their diet consists of, what the state of their internal organs is like, I could be instead picking up on and feeling their well masked depression, what their relationships are like, their family upbringing, cultural background and any cycles of abuse whether present in the moment or in the family line, and anything they might be thinking about in that present moment. Multiple that by walking past as many people as you do and then having to deal with the cashier and you start to get the picture.
It was really important to get a better handle on that, and that is why I now use a date of birth at the start of your reading, as a "switch on," and why I have a practise of as a meditation, completely forgetting everything about you at the end of the reading after you leave as a 'switch off" until the next time you come to see me. It is through discipline and normalising experiences, coupled with going and doing practical things straight after extraordinary experiences that helps ground an empath and helps them achieve and maintain balance, mentally and emotionally ongoing.
An empath can pick up from you face to face, via phone, email and text. But, they are under no obligation to tell you what they pick up. The boundaries of only working for a person inside an appointment stops empaths from becoming drained. Mediumship does not happen in every single predictive reading or for every single client. It is not always appropriate, as you may instead have a lot going on in the here and now which may require your more immediate, practical, reality based attention to take action in your life to resolve instead, and that was what in that reading was going to best help you at this time.
If you are an empath and find yourself feeling too many feelings that aren't your own, and getting confused by people lying to you about their intentions, remember, it most likely isn't your fault, but you do need to work on your boundaries, and, that there are things you can do to build trust with yourself about what you pick up from people while not getting bogged down in their adamant denials of what ( to an empath ) seems pretty clear cut and obvious.
There can be harmony and understanding between you and someone who is asking for insight from you while also being heavily resistant to hearing anything from you. If you empathise with them first, then you will know how to respond. Note that empathising is different to rationalising. Never ever try rationalising the actions of an irrational person, that is beyond self destructive, the results are surely self inflicted, and may teach you the hard way why there are some things we all should just leave well enough right where we found it.
A final word to all candidates
Should our friend find themselves in the book, it would not be by my intention, but at least they would not take offense in that more removed format where they can decide, alone on their own if they can are open to utilising the lessons that were there for them but withheld out of empathy for their self esteem. Should they find themselves here however, well if they didn't want their example used, why gift it to me but for me to help the empaths that may come across this article and have a much needed collective feeling of "YEP, got it!"
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Lots of love
Jacquelene Close Moore www.jacquelene.com.au Sixth generation psychic. Psychic, Medium, Empath, connected to all the senses First ever awarded Psychic of the year Victoria 2004, Psychic Ambassador 2013, Jacquelene has appeared and read for audiences at some of Australia’s most prestigious companies and events and is available for one to one private readings, media appearances, and corporate, group bookings Australia wide and internationally, and completed over 15,000 readings for clients from over 80 countries around the world since 1995. |
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